My uncle passed away last year from cancer. Amongst his personal possessions was a Buddha statue. My uncle was not really religious, but the Buddha statue was one of his favorite personal items. My cousin is Protestant, and while going through my uncle’s possessions, got into a heated argument with her mom and my mom. She was adamant that they should get rid of the Buddha statue, because it’s a pagan icon, and it would be bad for my uncle’s salvation. Her mom and my mom were against it, because it was one of my uncle’s favorite things, and they didn’t think it would’ve been right to just throw it away like that. What happened next was shocking. My cousin picked up the statue and threw it into the ground, breaking it into a million pieces. Her mom and my mom were both flabbergasted and got really offended - her mom was shaking from anger. My cousin has since apologized, but ever since my mom told me the story, I’ve been thinking about it.
On the one hand, I agree with my cousin that the Buddha statue is a somewhat superstitious, if not religious item. And I can see why she wanted to get rid of it. Her dad had just passed away, and she wanted to do everything possible to ensure his salvation. That said, I think she overreacted, and should not have disrespected her my and my mom. And really, someone’s salvation is not dependent on whether they have a Buddha statue in their possession after their death. But as a fellow Christian, I can kind of understand where my cousin’s coming from.
On the other hand, I can also see it from my mom and her mom’s point of view. My aunt’s husband had just past away, and her daughter is destroying what little of him my aunt had left of him. From their perspective, it’s a horrible act, and my cousin’s actions are disrespectful to her deceased father and to her mom and my mom.
So I’m of two minds about this. I think my cousin should’ve handled this better, but given that her dad had just passed away, I can understand that she was grief stricken and perhaps not in the right state of mind. But from an objective standpoint, from a strictly religious/ethical standpoint, did my cousin have a point?
Any help on this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.