[quote=tabcom]My family\friends do need preached to.
The annual ritual script went like this:
- Christmas mass (optional)
- Greeting of the relatives\friends
- Glib Conversation (Any discussion of Jesus is prohibited)
- Eat Meal (Gluttonay Encouraged)
- Open Gifts (Act of Materialism)
- Accessive drinking or in some cases, token on a joint outside.
- Clean up
- Go Home
- Go to Bed
Is my experience unique? Absolutely not.
I stopped doing Christmas six years ago because I got tired of handing out free forgiveness to relatives and friends that are only interested in feeding their own bellies with their personal desires.
And here we get to the crux of the matter. You’re family doesn’t live up to your expectations and so not only they but we need to hear the “message” from you.
Maybe some of your family and friends are asleep at the wheel, but really, that’s not for you or I to judge. Remember: “Judge not lest ye be judged!” If they are doing what is illegal, they certainly shouldn’t be. So, you should be praying for them and helping them with love not a judgmental atttitude.
Christmas isn’t to blame for anyone’s lack of understanding or devotion, we humans are. People are free to make use of what God has given us for our benefit or not. Which means each of us has to decide if we are going to take him up on what he’s provided for us or not. No one can decide that for another, as much as we might be tempted to do so.
The Church is not responsible for laxity/slothfulness/gluttony/materialism, etc. In truth, the Church is the counterpoint to all those things. But, people decide to ignore the teachings of the Church to their own loss.
Besides, there is nothing wrong with feasting as long as we are also fasting. Nor is there anything wrong with gift giving to loved ones as long as we are also giving to the poor. And small talk is fine too as long as it’s decent and uplifting. Innocent merriment is not forbidden, but needs to be put in its proper place, like a good many other things in life.
Jesus called us to each take up our cross daily and follow him, not tell others how to do that nor judge how well they are or aren’t doing it. We should look to the state of our own souls before we decide the state of anyone else’s. Yes?