Tough Moral Question:
My older brother got married to a woman outside of the Church after the priest told them they could not be married in the Church until they worked out some issues. A side note is that though the deacons were told by the priest not to be present at the wedding outside the Church, one of the deacon's who was a close family friend was present in the congregation at the non-Catholic Wedding.
Needless to say the marriage didn't work out.
While still going through the civil divorce he started dating someone else who was also going through a civil divorce. Once there divorces were final they got married in some wedding chapel.
Now they have a baby and we were going to visit them in the hospital, but they were discharged early and my conscience is telling me not to visit them at home because they are not married in the eyes of the Church and he is still married to his other wife in the eyes of the Church. At least from what I could tell.
Now, not visiting them at their home will bring with it many problems within the family because no one else sees a problem with this situation.
So my question is: Is it a scandal to visit their home? Does this show that we validate their relationship? And does it matter that an Ordained Deacon was present at the First Marriage even if he had no part in the ceremony?
This is an urgent request as we have been invited to their house this afternoon!