Hi CAF members. I present to you another wedding conundrum/rant and I ask for your thoughts:
My cousin, who has openly been struggling with her faith over the past few years was recently married. Her husband is unbaptized so they had a Nuptial liturgy (Holy Mass was not offered) in order to please the family who is staunchly Catholic and insisted on a Church ceremony. Later that same afternoon, the couple had another “wedding ceremony” outdoors at a golf course complete with the wedding party and all the trappings of a “real wedding”. Our uncle, who is a priest, was the officiant at the morning liturgy was also “presided” over this afternoon ceremony where the couple exchanged vows they wrote and listened to a reading from Dr. Seuss followed by St. Paul’s epistle to the Corinthians!
Our uncle, the priest, made it explicitly clear before the afternoon outdoor ceremony that the couple had been married earlier in the morning and that this was simply another “repeat” of what had in actuality occurred earlier in the day.
So as you might be able to see, there are family politics involved here. My cousin, concerned about appeasing her family went ahead and engaged in the nuptial liturgy but at the same time still had her “dream wedding” later that afternoon. I wish my priest-uncle had not participated in the afternoon debacle because it was not a liturgical/sacramental function and his presence as a minister of the Church at something like that has the propensity to cause scandal because it appears as though the Church approved of it, despite his disclaimer that they had already been married. If they had already been married what reason is there to do it again 4 hours later?? Having said that I empathize with his desire to not cause “hurt feelings” to my cousin, but I am tired of hearing how so many priests and Catholics are soooo concerned about hurt feelings than about the state of the souls entrusted to their care! I believe that Canon 1127-3 speaks about the prohibition of having 2 weddings but I don’t know if this applies since the canon refers to 2 “religious ceremonies”. In this case i don’t know if the latter ceremony qualifies as religious.