I need some insight on my relationship from more catholics. I would like to hear sugestions to our current problems and what you recomend would be best for us.
I little bit about us, we are both 27 years of age and have been together for 2 years. She is an extreamly devote catholic, while im more laid back. I would really like to marry her but thats something that cant happen for at least 3 years. I made bad decisions early in my life and right know finishing school and working to get a decent amount of money saved. This is my first really serios relationship with potencial for marriage.
When we first started the relationship she told me she did not want to have sex, and i told her that sex was something that was important to me, just to point out neither of us are virgin. We made it past our first year with no sex however we did do other stuff. Year 2 was little different we had sex for the first time. We had great chemistry and it was great however she was full of guilt afterwards. After that time we have engaded in sex 4 times always with an argument about the subject a couple days later. We would always full around together and have a great time and she had no objection to it.
One day without telling me she attended a puirty seminar at our catholic church and decied to get a puirty ring and withhold everything from me till marriage. I was upset with her for making a big decision and not making me part of it. So as you can imagine I have been realy frustrated.
Being a catholic myself i new what i was doing was wrong, but i never felt wrong becuase i am in love with her and i do plan on marring her. Because I love her I am trying really hard to accept this and get closer to God to try to make this bearable.
We are both active in our church going to mass every sunday, holy hour on thursday and mass on every first friday of the month as well as retreats and other various activities. However through the course of our relatioship i realized i was doing all the other activites to make her happy. I would be content with with mass on sunday and maybe a reatreat a year. However i find thats not enouph for her she wants me to participate more and be more active and grow and think the same as she does. This is creating a problem for me because instead of growing i am begining to push everthing that hast to do with church away. I feel it is the root to all of our problems.
I currently feel frustrated, not happy at the idea of waiting and sad in general.