So one of my very best friends has come out as gay. We’ve discussed homosexuality years before, and he knows I stand with the Church’s teachings, which is homosexuality in and of itself isn’t a sin, but rather acting on those feelings is a sin. He’s not Catholic, but he’s attended Catholic school for most of his life and is one of those “not Catholic, doesn’t go to Mass on Sundays, but still kind of sort of follow the Church” kind of people if you know what I mean. He definitely believes in God, but I don’t know if he chooses to believe homosexuality is okay or not. To be completely honest, I’m not really surprised he’s gay. A bunch of people thought he was or might be years ago. Since “the seed has been planted” in terms of faith and Catholicism, I do have faith he might turn his life around eventually, and really find God, and stop acting on the homosexual feelings he has. I still love him to death, and he’s still one of my best friends. Now, aside from praying for him and being worried about his immortal soul, I’m pretty anxious about what to do if he brings a boyfriend around me, or even marries another man. As stated above, he knows where I stand with homosexual relationships, but does this mean I have to stop being his friend? Would I ever have to refuse to meet a boyfriend or maybe not attend a wedding if he has one? Obviously I would, if that’s the right thing to do. Even if I did attend a wedding of his, I would know it’s not a real marriage.
And on top of everything, I’m a little hurt he’s had boyfriends before and not told me. I know it wasn’t an easy thing for him to deal with, but I’m also kind of worried he thinks I no longer want to be his friend.
I still have high hopes he’s just going through a rebellious stage, but that might just be my denial talking.