My very difficult baby, toddler and preschooler is turning 5 in about 2 weeks. His behaviour has gotten so much better.
I used to use spanking as a back-up method when he wouldn’t go to his room, etc. I used it consistently as a back-up, so my son always knew what was coming if he didn’t listen to me…one or two smacks on the bum and three if he was being really defiant.
Now when he’s naughty, I just take him to his room and tell him sternly not to leave his room until I tell him so. He’ll open the door a little bit and I say sternly to close the door. He’ll tell me he hates me under his breath and then close the door. I ignore it. He has no idea what hate is.
I honestly can’t remember the last time I spanked his bum. More than a month for sure.
He’s well behaved at school; he respects authority and he is very respectful of his teachers, peers and daycare providers. He’s no longer aggressive with his friends and he doesn’t hit back when a friend is aggressive with him…he tells a teacher.
My son is extremely tall and if he wanted to, he could win any fight with a kid his age. He has become a friendly giant.
I have received a lot of criticism for my son’s behaviour over the years as well as my mothering skills. My son and I have a great bond and we hug and kiss several times a day. I am extremely close to him and we lay down together every night so he can tell me about his day. I love this little boy! All the hard work is paying off.