I am in a bind. A very good friend of mine (my former roommate of 5 years; 00 to 05) was married in the Catholic Church back in late '93. He married his then girlfriend because he got her pregnant. Apparently that was the only reason. Their marriage lasted about 2 years, then they separated with the only contact being with regards to their child. Since then he’s led a very “casual” lifestyle with many girlfriends that have come and gone. The last couple of years he’s been seriously dating a girl and has decided to marry her. He just asked me to be in his wedding as a groomsman. I don’t believe it’s a Catholic wedding, and I don’t believe he received an annulment from the Church (I don’t know for sure) but what is my responsibility here?
In one way I’m very happy that he’s decided to quit his cavalier lifestyle and “commit” to a woman, and I’d like to support him. On the other hand, he is married in the Catholic Church, not to mention he was brought up Catholic. I’ve known him for almost 20 years and he’s never really practiced his faith, but the last several years he’s been into a lot of new age stuff.
What should I do? I also hate to come off like some kind of “holier than thou” person.