Today (or rather, now, yesterday), my parents (who are non-Catholic) attended EF Mass for the sole purpose of hearing me sing the soprano solo in Mozart’s “Laudate Dominum”. Honestly when I invited them to come, I didn’t expect them to actually come (based upon previous experiences).
We stopped for coffee afterwards, and I heard nothing but complaining (ie, too much incense, if Fr. had actually sprinkled me, I would have had go around with him right there, you guys sure to stand up and sit down alot, etc). These comments didn’t really bother me, though, in comparison to my father repeatedly refering to the Eucharist as a cracker (it pains me to even type it). I asked him nicely to not say that… gave him a few terms that, I hoped, would have respected his sensibilities (communion, Eucharist to name two) without calling it “just a cracker”. He still used “cracker” anyways. I then told him that he was offending me… and he still referred to the Body of Christ as a cracker. At this point, I was to the verge of blowing my top, and had to bite my tounge VERY HARD to not say something offensive towards Presbyterians, police officers (he used to be one), postal workers (but wouldn’t have worked too well, since my mother is also one), NRA members… anything that he deeply cares about just to give him a taste of his own medicine… but I decided that I already had enough to confess with my anger towards him, and thankfully, my mother changed the subject at that point. Right before she changed the subject, I made sure to refer to the Eucharist as the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Our Lord Jesus Christ pointedly.
Anyways, I don’t plan on bringing this topic up to him again myself, but… I know it will come up again eventually. Any advise on the best way of handling this in the future (especially when he become so offensive)? I know there is respect needed, and perhaps (or most likely) I need to take any advise on respect myself. I’m not looking for anyone to say “Oh, he’s wrong and you’re right”… I just needed to vent, but I also need some advise on how to approach this topic when it is inevitably brought up again.