I’d say you have a real problem. Love cannot always overcome them.
If she won’t even go and talk to the priest now, how can you expect her to raise the children Catholic?
My husband was not Catholic, still isn’t, but it was important to me and he did it for me. (Another long story in this but enough for this).
Have you discussed how important this is to you?
If you have, have you though of what it will be like to be married someone is willing to ignore something that is so important to you?
Honestly, this should be a deal breaker for you. If not, you are choosing the love of your fiancee over the love of God.
Think hard and carefully. Did you come here looking for someone to tell you it will be alright, no matter how many tell you watch out? Are you truly looking for advice, or a don’t worry?
I don’t ask this to be mean or nasty. I ask this because it appears you have no doubts about getting married. And this is a huge situation if you have any hope at all of raising your children in the Catholic Faith or of you even practicing your faith. Are you willing to give up you Catholic Faith in order to be married to her? That is the question you should be asking yourself if she continues to refuse to talk to the priest.
You don’t marry who a person in hopes of what they may do or become. You marry a person for who they are. It appears your fiancee is not only “not religious” but is unwilling to allow you to be either. She may not realize this, but this is what she will be doing by not having your marriage validated. Make sure she understands this fully if you already haven’t. If she still doesn’t go see the priest, I can’t imagine spending my life with someone so selfish and self-centered.
You can excuse away her behavior as circumstances she went through, or confront what her actions actually say.
wife of 17 years, married at age 23