Hello, I am a college student, and one of my friends went through RCIA and was confirmed this year. He grew up Catholic, but wasn’t really into it until he got into RCIA. And he REALLY got in to it. He’s one of the most religious persons I know, and was very Catholic.
Around the time he got confirmed though, he started hanging out with a Protestant group on campus (which I believe is non-denominational). I think it was because a lot of his best friends (i.e. ones that are in his major, which he is extremely busy with almost all of the time) are in this group, plus he’s extremely outgoing. I didn’t think much of it, as he was a strong Catholic and I knew he wouldn’t convert away from the church.
However, starting this school year, he wasn’t showing up to Mass on campus, and wasn’t hanging out with our Catholic group (we’re not affiliated with Newman) a whole lot. I figured it was because he was super busy with his major, and I didn’t think much of it. However, at the same time I knew he had been hanging out with that Protestant group a lot, and one night I saw on Facebook that he had posted about how much he loved this group’s bible study. Now that set off a red flag. I brought it up to a couple people in our Catholic group (including one of the student ministers), and they said I really should talk to him. So that following weekend I asked him why he wasn’t at mass. While he didn’t want to explain it at the time (it would have been a bad time anyway), he said he would eventually. But he did say the reason he’s not showing up to mass is because of this Protestant group. While I’m not sure if he’s left the Catholic Church completely, as of now, it sounds like he has.
I should note that he does seem like the kind of person who’d want to be “entertained” during a church service in that he’d want to “feel it” (one of his latest Facebook posts was “Had some of the best worship I’ve had in a while! Totally feeling in love with God right now!”). And since a Catholic service is pretty robotic compared to some Protestant services, I could see how he’d be more attracted to a “PRAISE THE LORD!” type service.
I also know pretty much all of his best friends now are in this Protestant group. He barely socializes with anyone in our Catholic group now (mostly because no one in our group is in his major, which as I’ve said he’s very busy with). He also has had at least 1 love interest in this Protestant group (even though he didn’t end up in a relationship with her). So it could be a social thing on why he’s hanging out with them now
Basically, when he finally tells me why he’s not going to mass anymore and is instead hanging with this Protestant group now, how should I approach his answer? How should I reply if he gives those two suspicions I mentioned (he wants to be “entertained” and/or it’s because all of his friends are in it)? Or, if he says something like “I had a vision of God, and He told me to leave the Catholic Church and join this Protestant group” (based on his tone and what he was hinting at when I talked to him, it sees like there’s a possibility it could be something like this).
I should note I don’t think it’s because he’s all of a sudden bitter towards the Catholic Church or anything like that (he did state he doesn’t think of the Catholic Church any different), so I don’t think it’s because he’s been turned into an anti-Catholic. I should also note that I’m almost certain it has nothing to do with the Catholic Church’s opposition to birth control, abortion, or gay marriage, as I know for certain he is very much so opposed to those things.