my girlfriend and i having been dating just over 6 months now, we are both seventeen, and have been really great friends for a few years before we started dating.
we are also both catholic, practicing catholics, and more so than most. we are both extraordinary minister of holy communion at our schools, we are both attend retreats and talk about our faith very openly.
my problem is this: i asked her if she would like to go to mass with me sometime, and her response was that she would rather go with her family and its a special time they share together. i understood that answer and fully respect it. my real problem came about when i told her recently that i am going to try and go to a mass during the week (apart from sunday) and wanted to know if she would like to go. she said no, and thought that it was very weird, and that she did not want mass to be an "outing."
i somewhat understood this, but my intentions were not to make mass a date, but rather an experience for both of us to grow in our faith, together as a couple.
we attended adoration once together, and she thought that was “not as weird as i would have thought.” i tried explaining that part of a relationship is helping the other person get to heaven (this is the part that i started to get upset with her about and made her upset as well, which i felt awful about). she basically said that, “what you seem to being saying is much more like marriage, not that i dont want that, im just not thinking about it right now”
i know i did something wrong, i apologized to her by visiting her the day after and we’ll see how it goes. i really really like her so much, perhaps one day i would like to marry her, she is definitely the type of person i would love to marry, but how can we get around this “awkward mass” situation, as well as the other stuff?