Long time lurker with a question. My doctors recommended I get a hysterectomy. I’ve put it off for 10+ years, but now I’m wondering how much longer I should continue to do so. In my case I don’t think it would be sinful, but I wonder.
Background: I am a 55 year old woman who has not yet gone through menopause. I know I’m not the oldest woman to go through menopause, but I don’t know anyone older than me who is still having periods. I have lingering problems caused by childbirth (with massive episiotomy and tearing) that, although not painful, have caused continual embarrassment. These include a large hernia in my rectum, significant weakening of my bladder muscles, and uterine prolapse that puts severe strain on these every time I cough or sneeze. Because of the uterine prolapse, both my GYN and urologist agree that the only way to surgically correct the bladder and rectal problems are to get a hysterectomy. Otherwise the first time I coughed after surgery the prolapse would tear the stitches out.
My problems are not painful, fortunately, but they are messy and embarrassing. For years now I’ve told the doctors that I’ll get the hysterectomy done and the other problems corrected when I’ve been through menopause and my reproductive organs have dried up on their own. Now I’m starting to reconsider continuing to wait.
More background: My husband and I have three grown children. My husband is impotent and we haven’t had sex for over eight years. (That’s a separate problem he has to deal with, but refuses.) Point is that there is pretty much zero chance we’ll be able to have any more children.
Even though I am still fertile, (at least I think I am), my periods are getting irregular, and when they do arrive it’s with a vengeance. As in, spend half of the day in the bathroom and the other half of the day doing laundry kind of vengeance. Today, while closing out another episode of dealing with Niagara Falls and with the washing machine still spinning, I’m wondering how much longer I should put this off.
Would I be committing some kind of sin by having the procedures done now, while I am still technically capable of bearing a child?