My horrible life - sick to my stomach literally

hello, my husband after starting a new job less than a month ago has been fired (and it was through his own fault), and has been like a crazy person every since. His mood swings, and while he has always done this, it’s really extreme. He is acting like a crazy person threatening this and that.

Now he says he doesn’t want to work at all and I should have been more smarter or whatever so I could support him and he’s not gonna work. He wants to stay home and watch our son - yeah, right, that’s not going to happen - It’s sad because he’s his father and while often he is a good one, for those reasons above, I don’t like him with our son all day like that. I mean, last time he watched him, my son didn’t go to bed till dinner time, wouldn’t sleep that night and was horriably cranky for the babysitter the next day. Yesterday my husband said he would watch our son because he was sick but when I took him in the morning to the bedroom, he said take him to daycare and I’ll get him later. I thought by that time I better stay home with my son and take care of him - heck I was already late at this point and had no time to take him to daycare because of this!

He is very serious with his threats. He wants a divorce or a trip for years and then to come back if he feels like it which he may or may not, or he can stay a while here and not work -it’s on me. I am sick to my stomach. I admit I make mistakes and forget things and don’t do things the way he “wants” and feel badly for them, but I can’t stand this.

I can’t stand his tantrums and threats, but I can’t stand losing him either - what to do? Please Pray

I’ll pray for you and your husband Jenna. :gopray:

I pray that God enlighten your husband, and that you might have strength to go on each day, clinging to God for His mercy and guidance.

God bless you and keep you and your family safe Jenna! Praying and sending all my love!


I’m praying for your family.

consider getting marital counselling if he is willing with your priest.
it sounds like he has depressive episodes. has he been to a doctor? if not, would he be willing to go? he does need help, so if you have a priest, speak with him. you also need to have a gentle talk with your husband as well.

A prayer,

Lord Jesus, grant that I and my spouse may have a true and understanding love for each other. Grant that we may both be filled with faith and trust. Give us the grace to live with each other in peace and harmony. May we alawys bear with one another’s weakness and grow from each others strengths.
Help us to forgive one anothers failings and grant us patience, kindness, cheerfulness and the spirit of placing the well-being of one another ahead of self.
May the love that brought us together grow and mature with each passing year. Bring us both ever closer to You through our love for each other. Let our love grow to perfection. Amen

Mother Mary, please help this family in their time of need

You’re in my prayers Jenna.:frowning:


I’ve only heard your side so I’m probably biased (towards you), but my opinion is that someone has to work - and that it should probably be him. I also think that his request to take a several year “trip” is quite immature. I mean - yeah we’d all like to do something out of the ordinary. I’d personally love to see the world - but he has a family to support. Maybe you can save up for a holiday or something but he shouldn’t ultimatum you in that way.


It sounds as if your husband may need to see a doctor or counseller. I will keep your situation in prayer…

Keeping you and your family in my prayers…



Praying for you and your family. For peace and consolation and may you find the love of spouses to get you through this tough time.

Will pray to St. Joseph for your intentions…

my prayers are with you.

I’m praying for you also, but I agree with the others who suggested a medical examination for him and marriage counseling for both of you. If you don’t want to go to your priest, there are plenty of qualified counselors and some base their rate on a sliding scale in case money is an issue.

How old is your husband? If you are teen newlyweds, then I can perhaps understand his immature attitude, but if he’s older, then he has to grow up the way the rest of us did, Life wasn’t mean to be a perpetual playground. You work and you play and it’s a balance…and who is going to pay for his multi-year trip? :gopray:

Prayers to the holy family for you!

Seek out help for the both of you.

I’ll pray for you and your family along with everyone else on the Forums.

I will pray for you,and your safety,I will pray for your spouse.Have
you spoken to a counsler or a priest?There are programs that sometimes help.God bless

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