When my husband and I come home from work, I cook dinner and my husband watches T.V. He expects the kids to remain quiet, so he can watch T.V. all night. When the kids scream while playing, DH gets mad at me and says that I am making them too loud. I just like to play with them and tickle them in the living-room and DH wants complete silence.
I left the room for a minute last night, and DS banged his head while playing with DD. DH began yelling at DD and I defended her telling him that he should get off his butt and play with them. He then told me that I was an idiot and that I was the problem. DD was trying so hard to get DH’s attention and he ignored her watching T.V. and if she was too loud, he would tell her to be quiet.
DD went off in another room to cry and I consoled her with our live-in nanny telling her that she’s a good girl. Just to keep her away from DH, DD then watched T.V. in my live-in nanny’s room while I bathed DS. DH was only happy once all the kids were gone. He then went and got himself an ice-cream cone. I was sooo mad and I told him sarcastically to enjoy his ice-cream (like he’s some 6 year old!!!).
DH spends his entire weekends renovating our house. We don’t go out as a family anymore and he doesn’t spend any quality time with our kids. I’m getting very fed up with this situation. Last Saturday morning, we were having a very bad snowstorm. When I told him that I was going grocery shopping (hoping he would volunteer to watch the kids), DH instead told me to take the kids with me :eek: Luckily, my live-in nanny stepped in and offered to watch them, so that the kids wouldn’t have to go out in the snow. DH then felt guilty and watched the kids instead, but our nanny played with them as well.
I am so fed up with DH’s lack of involvement or his lack of desire to be with his kids.
I was thinking of a solution - ask him to set a Saturday aside once a month, so we can have a family date. We reserve that day, and go somewhere as a family…the zoo, etc.