Hi everyone–I hope you can give me some sound advice here. My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately, recently got into a very big argument, and it has somehow escalated into him pondering whether our marriage is worth working on or not. (Which he has been contemplating for three days now.) There is a lot more history involved, but not enough time or space to write it all. We are both Catholic (he converted after he met me), and I admit that I am always nagging him and trying to get him to make religion a bigger part of his life. I tell him that now, especially with having a child, I want all of our decisions to be based on religion and center around God. He says he’s happy just the way he is and will never change. He tells me I am no fun and goes out with his friends often. I feel like he is still a kid and I am his mother, trying to tell him what to do and guide him in this life. All I want is for him to try to be closer to God and his family. There was a point in his life where he was talking about becoming a deacon and it was so wonderful! (This was when we were separated before and he left for basic training, after he cheated on me. As soon as he came back home he lost all that faith he had gained when he was away.)
Can anyone tell me how I can, first of all, get him to realize we can’t throw this marriage away? I have suggested counseling, a marriage encounter weekend, books, etc…he refuses.
Secondly, how do I live with someone who is “lazy” with religion -or- is there a way to get through to him and help him prioritize his life, with God and his family on top?
Thank you for your suggestions and help–God Bless!