My husband has a female friend who he is very close to but I can't help thinking she has designs on him. Though she has a boyfriend, she is very flirtatious and often tells my husband how much she means to him, that they are 'the same person' (she said this in front of me, after a drink or two), how they're best friends. She often invites him round to her house (he says no because I don't like it). He doesn't see the problem, though.
I feel sorry for my husband in a way because I have told him how I feel about the way she is with him. She often comments about what a great dad he is and has worked very hard to build up a rapport with my toddler, and even has a nickname for her (which I don't like, incidentally) that only she uses. She also is very keen to get married and have a family. I have told my husband I think married people need to act a certain way. Part of me would like her to know exactly why he can't go round to her house alone - because it isn't right for married people and single people, being of the opposite sex, to do that.
My husband is rather naive and couldn't tell if a woman fancied him if she waved a placard in his face.
Maybe all of this is really silly but I can't help feeling...uneasy! She has been very welcoming to me in some ways and then rather cold with me in others. Don't know whether I will be doing the right thing, telling him to tell her why he can't see her alone.
Am I being over the top? Should I say something? And if I do, to him or to her?