[quote="odile53, post:6, topic:228675"]
I think a far more likely scenario is that your husband's emotional condition may be getting worse. Although there are unscrupulous psychiatrists, the vast majority are competent physicians who have real concern for their patients. Unfounded accusations of infidelity are very frequently an early symptom of a developing paranoia, sad to say. For that reason, I would call the doctor and inform him of what you just told us. I am pretty confident that she will be even more surprised than you were when you heard this accusation, and she will be on the alert to observe him for deterioration in his emotional status, and intensify treatment before it gets much worse.
My prayers are with all concerned.
I'm praying for you also.
I have PTSD and bipolar disorder and have struggled with significant psychosis throughout my life. This can include paranoia. It is something that can be treated through a combination of medication and therapy. Medication to stabilize and therapy to work out the conflicts. I have improved vastly since I had serious problems a few years ago. It is possible to improve substantially but treatment as you know is very important.
I don't know if your husband has issues with psychosis but they can go along with PTSD and as the above poster said, accusations of infidelity can be an early warning sign of paranoia. There is a group, the sidran foundation, www.sidran.org, that provides information on PTSD. They have worked with my college Loyola College (now university) Maryland to provide pastoral counseling that reflects the latest trauma research so they are familiar with helping people of faith. They are located in Baltimore and have a help desk you can email.
Treatment has improved significantly in the last 5 or 10 years, with research on mindfulness and CBT.
I'm not sure his psychiatrist will talk to you if you call. Due to confidentiality I'm not sure if that's legal. you may want to ask about that.
also, will your husband let you go to a doctor's visit and talk to the doctor with him? that can help if he trusts you and the doctor enough to do that.
it is possible to improve a lot with the right help.