You have been married for 17 years. You signed up for marriage as a Presbyterian, married a Presbyterian, christened your children Presbyterian, and were apparently either a Presbyterian or at least lived as a Presbyterian* for 15 years of marriage.*
You have a 12 year old, a 5 year old, and a 3 year old, who have lived all their lives presumably as Presbyterians, with their beloved Presbyterian mother, and their beloved Presbyterian relatives, and their familiar and dear Presbyterian pastor and Sunday School teachers, and all their dear, familiar, comfortable, and reliable Presbyterian friends and neighbors for spiritual and social support and friendship.
You abandoned the Presbyterian Church and converted to Catholicism.
Presumably you did this because you felt that Catholicism better meets *your *spiritual and social needs.
You now express disappointment with your wife and family because your spiritual and social needs apparently are not being adequately met with your newly established church and family situation which you yourself clearly established.
How are your spiritual and social needs apparently not being adequately met? Apparently your spiritual and social needs are not being adequately met because your spouse and children are happy with their comforting and familiar Presbyterian pastor and Sunday school teachers, Presbyterian relatives, and comforting and familiar Presbyterian friends and neighbors and church and traditions. They are not interested in your ideas that everyone would suddenly somehow now be better off with a Catholic pastor, Catholic relatives, Catholic friends, and a Catholic church with Catholic traditions.
I have seen parents endure tremendous hardships and make tremendous sacrifices in order to avoid having to uproot their children away from their spiritual and social support network of loving relatives, church, friends and neighbors. I have seen many cases of one spouse having to move with a career and commute home tremendous distances daily, weekly, monthly, or even work in and send money home from a foreign country just so that the other spouse can maintain the household in place so that the children can keep their spiritual and social support network of loving relatives and church friends and neighbors intact. throughout their formative years.
You say that it is hard to love someone who no longer respects you, yet how have you shown any respect whatsoever for your children’s needs for spiritual and social reliability, consistency, and security?
If you were a 12 year old how would you feel if your father suddenly decided to join the church-of-the-month club and took up lecturing you about his new found “faith” and how you need to model your own faith life on *his *new found “faith”?
Your father’s new found “faith” just walked out on wife, children, church, relatives, friends, and neighbors to go join the church-of-the-month club and yet your father fully expects and demands that you listen to him and respect his “authority” on the subject of faith? He has got to be kidding! Children are not stupid.
At 12 years old if your dear old dad wants to go join the church-of-the-month club, you’d want dear old dad to go get lost with his new found friends and leave your established relationships with your teachers and neighbors and friends completely out of it, because a 12 year old is 2/3 of the way to adulthood already and has got his own spiritual and social support network that he has been working on for some time.
A 12 year old will hear all the stories from the other kids on the block and come to the realization that next year dear old dad might just well decide to go join the new-wife-of-the-month club because you and your siblings and mother aren’t meeting his personal needs any better than your church did.
Well, thank God for Mom and family and relatives and friends and neighbors and church that are all still there as solid support that give a kid a sense of self and identity and acceptance and security just for being oneself.
You’ve been Catholic for what? All of 2 years?
Your 12 year old has been Presbyterian for 10 very long years longer than you have been Catholic. (and child years are much longer than adult years)
Your 5 year old has been Presbyterian for 3 very long years longer than you have been Catholic.
Even your 3 year old has been Presbyterian longer than you have been Catholic.!
You were the one who walked out on their spiritual tradition and community presumably because it didn’t meet your own personal spiritual and social needs.
You took up with another spiritual tradition and community which likewise doesn’t seem to be fulfilling your personal spiritual and social needs either. You complain that you feel so alone. Of course you feel alone. You walked out on your wife and kids back at the Presbyterian Church to go get your personal spiritual and social needs met elsewhere, but somehow that elsewhere just isn’t meeting your personal spiritual and social needs any better. OK, so what’s missing? You are.