I will keep this as short as possible because otherwise it will very long
I got married to “Luke” (we will call him that for now) at 19. A few months before we got married I miscarried our first child. He and his entire family act like this never happened.
When we’re planning our wedding I said in front of the priest and my husband that I DID NOT want to get married and everyone ignored me, or Luke believe my reasons weren’t “good enough”.
After we got married we got pregnant again in about 4 to 5 months. Luke ignored me (while obsessing over World of Warcraft). Then after our son was born he was terrible to us. He continued to ignore me and he yell profanity at our son (he was no more than 4 months old) and ignored him as well.
Five months later I was pregnant again. This time he had absolutely nothing to do with the baby and basically didn’t talk to me for 8 months.
He lets his family make fun of me and does nothing. He doesn’t care about my education. He will disappear for hours at a time and he has stopped going to church and now says he doesn’t believe in God.
The kicker is he was the most devout, caring, loving most understanding man I’ve ever met!!! He didn’t care if I had girly moments he would actually cry with me. He was the example I followed in growing in my faith. Our relationship had problems and yes we had pre-marital sex, but I still loved him more than anyone I’ve ever known. He’s just thrown all 8 years together to the way side like it meant nothing. I’ve tried to get help for both of us, but when we decided we didn’t like our current therapist and we stopped seeing her to look for another one… he enrolled in a Financial Peace University class instead and now our marriage is on the back burner AGAIN. Four years and our marriage has sat there burning like extremely overcook food. I don’t know what to do. I can’t make him care. I’ve explained some of the more disturbing details to my priest and he thinks I should get an annulment. I don’t want to do that because my parents are divorced and I swore I would never do that. PLEASE HELP ME!!