I had an affair for a year and a half. It recently ended badly. I’m still in love with the woman but I can’t return to her. She hurt me pretty badly. This isn’t about the affair. I acknowledge it was wrong. This is about my marriage. It was in trouble when’s started the affair. It’s been in trouble for a while. My wife just isn’t much of a wife. I’ve tried to reconnect with her after my mistress and I broke off our relationship. It’s been good, but our sex life is garbage. Conversations with her are terrible. I’m really putting effort in but I’m just not feeling it.
Her efforts aren’t there. Yes we’ve discussed this at length. She acknowledges her shortcomings. That isn’t enough. I need passion and sex and conversation and to feel something and it’s hard.
How do I get that back with my wife? Thanks.