I am wondering if I could have your opinions on this situation. My MIL is 65 and she just got engaged to a man that is 86 and she’s getting married in January. Both of their spouses have passed away 10 or so years ago. Since my MIL husband died she has been very money hungry and everything she says or does revolves around money. She has dated older men before who have all had lots of money but the last one died before they even got engaged, he was 78. The man she is going to marry now is very well off (her words) and they just bought a condo and paid it in full. He has one son the same age as her and she has three kids 29 and up. My husband (her oldest son) and I are concerned that she is only marrying this guy for his money. My MIL is also keeping her house because it is paid for too, we’re not exactly sure why she is doing that. She has been with him for almost three years and my husband and I have only met him once. She wants my husband and her other son to walk her down the aisle and her daughter to be the maid of honor. My husband doesn’t want to walk her down the aisle because he thinks she is marrying for the wrong reason. She is Catholic and very involved in the church (pastoral minister) and he is agnostic and has no intention of becoming Catholic (her words). So I guess we have a couple of questions:
- Should we say anything to her about her reasons for marrying?
- Is it proper for her sons to “give her away”?
I would appreciate any advice you have for us. Thanks and God bless.