Hey guys. I love reading this site, but for the first time I need some help.
Just some background, my girlfriend and I have been dating about a year and a half. I myself am a devout Catholic, she is, a Protestant preacher’s daughter who, like myself, seems un-moveable in her faith.
For the first year or so of our relationship, it is what I would define as “almost perfect”. We loved each other, and we disagreed on religion but we never dicussed it.
Then I deployed to Iraq. While there, as many do, I grew in my faith so much. And upon my recent return, it appears she has to. We seem to of grown apart because of our differences, instead of into understanding as it seemed before.
As her and I have discussed religion before, the topic came up again. Only this time we were both very defensive and she became so hot-headed as to say some hateful things about the Catholic church. (I was shocked! This girl has always been an angel. To hear her say ANYTHING hateful or mean almost made me faint!). I didn’t know how to respond, so I just shut up and she felt horrible. From then on it was apparent that we had some things to talk about.
That was a few weeks ago. Last night she asks me if we are going to “talk”. I knew what she meant. I was trying to avoid it for as long as possible just to stay happy, but I was just pretending. God had become the most important thing to me, but losing her still made me feel like throwing up.
So, next weekend when I come home, we plan to talk. I understand Protestant views having studied them (I even wanted to be one for a while in Iraq because I saw this coming!), but in the end I knew the truth, and I can’t be anything but Catholic. However, I she doesn’t know much about Catholic beliefs except what her father has told her. (I feel he is kind of an anti-Catholic, though not openly). So of course all she knows is that she disagrees with the Catholic church.
My hope for next week is to try and show her our standpoint on things, but my fear is it will turn into a heated debate. But I don’t know what else to do for this “talk”. I can only pray that if I show her the truth, she will see where I am coming from. But at the same time, I can’t forsee this ending any other way than breakup. Unless of course, God does move her soul that night.
I am really just looking for advice of what to do, or say to her. I just don’t know. If nothing else, please keep her and I in your prayers this upcoming week. I feel like next weekend will be one of those ones that takes a while to recover from.