Hello, just looking for some responses. My husband has NPD (or so I believe - at least he has every single one of the symptoms listed in the below thread). Let me start off by saying that I am not Catholic - he is. I have been through RCIA and he holds it over my head that he won’t mary me in the church unless this or that happens, and thus, I haven’t been able to join the church. H has just been fired/quit from his third job in a year and now is on the kick of wanting a business - and he wants it where it’s warmer and far from where we are now. he wants to drag me into a business too b/c it’s the only way he can “use” me to his bennefit - his own words. I mean, I am a “stupid dumb white ****” who doesn’t have a 100,000 paying salary or rich dad to give him money for his business after all.
I am sick of his MAJOR screw ups, but him getting mad that a towel wasn’t washed which leads to screaming match for 3 hours and him kicking me out - then pulling me back in. After the last argument ( we were leaving town for a day), I said I want out and am leaving with our son - his reaction says it all - “I’m not done with you yet”
Actually, It think pretty much 80% of his family has NPD. They are all pretty bad.
Here’s the thing though - with a three year old in the middle, I have no choice but to stay. He has told me what he will do because he thinks he’s the better parent (even though he’s barely put him to bed or changed him more than 10 times in his 3 year old life), and it will come true - he has said he will first of all take all “HIS” money and hide it, or send it to his family to hide it and he will borrow all he can, and take my son away - and this he hasn’t said… but I know it’s a fact - if he even gets so much as a weekend alone with my son, he’ll flee the country - and this he has said… he knows how to talk immigration officials into letting him into another country (won’t go into which country).
I can’t let my child be alone with him - every time they walk out of the house, I am scared. What can I do? Nothing. I even find myself thinking about how I ‘used’ to be like and I think about guys I knew in the past who I would have been much better off with - that might sound dumb, but it’s what I think about - how much better it would be with so and so and I ruined my life with this loser.
I just don’t know what to do anymore. I have read on these posts of women losing weight, but I just gain it and gain it and gain it - of course that just makes me worse in his eyes. After all, of course he deserves a rich doctor to take care of him his whole life with a rich family - and oh yeah, she better be a model. That’s what he deserves after all. I am white trash worth nothing and deserves no one.