I can’t really think of how to begin this post, and I’m a little nervous about posting personal stuff, but I really need some help and PRAYERS! My husband and I were recently married in the Catholic Church in a wonderful joint Jewish-Catholic ceremony (He’s Jewish). He doesn’t really practice, doesn’t have much of a relationship with God, doesn’t like people to talk to him about religion or God (unless it’s me), and was raised in a way that has left him ridiculously confused about religion.
Our marriage has changed his thoughts on a lot of that and it’s exciting, but I’m nervous. I have been praying every day (since we started dating about 5 years ago), SEVERAL times a day, more than I’ve ever prayed before, that God would soften his heart and bring him peace (and hopefully that peace would be the Catholic Church ) Well, God has been doing some marvelous work and I can see such a change in DH. He prays with me (and without me) now, we’ve started doing a bible study together (Our Father Plan - Salvation History), and he talks more openly about faith and how everything happens for a reason - God’s plan. I wish I could express how big of an amazing change this is.
My problem is, I am terrified that I’m going to say something that will push him away. I’m just now renewing my faith and I’ve forgotten a lot of the teachings, so I’m reading as many books and articles as I can get my hands on. I am constantly asking God to help me say the right thing and I know He’s with me, so I feel silly for being scared. I see such a spiritual thirst in DH now, and I don’t feel like I’m giving him enough information to quench it. And, my biggest question, how do I introduce him to Jesus? Whenever we approach the subject of the trinity, DH has alway been timid, mostly b/c so many other Christians (of a certain denomination…) have tried to push their beliefs on him and it’s only pushed him away. He doesn’t like going to church b/c he’s intimidated by the publicity of it and the crowd of Catholics (he feels left out), although he could and has talked to a priest for hours one on one. How can I make him feel more comfortable at mass? And I don’t feel like I’m setting a very good example for him, b/c it is so hard for me to go to mass alone - so I don’t sometimes and that’s a sin and I don’t like him seeing me sin (I keep praying for strength in this area).
Anyways, I’ve explained to him how I don’t have all the answers and that God is a mystery, so no one has all the answers, that’s where faith comes in. Now, money has been getting tight and DH has had some health problems, so he’s wondering where God is. And he’s had a rough life, his family has had horrible illness and death, so he says he can’t see God in his life. I’ve told him God is always with you and sometimes He tests you and He even tests the people with the strongest faith. To which DH responds, why would he do that? Why would he bring about a hard time to test someone who had followed him so closely? I didn’t know how to respond to that, so I just say my typical response - well everything happens for a reason, maybe your test plays an important part in the bigger plan. Then he says what kills me the most, “you have such peace and I can see God so much more in your life than mine.” So, I counter with, “well we’re married now so my life is the same as yours and God’s in it.” - but I still don’t think he’s satisfied. He’s been asking more and more questions everyday, mostly about specific Catholic beliefs. So I’m constantly on this site sifting through threads and looking for answers that I don’t have. I just feel such a heavy responsibility.
I guess I’m just asking for PRAYERS and any advice on delicate ways to introduce him to different parts of the Catholic teaching - maybe books (do they make one about introducing Catholicism to Jewish people?). And what happens when he disagrees with a teaching? I don’t want him to be pushed away. I’m just nervous, b/c I feel like God has finally answered ALL my many prayers for this and now it’s my responsibility to help DH along. Plus, I love:heart: DH very much and I long to be able to share a common faith with him. I hope I didn’t babble on too much in this post, but it’s very hard to talk to family members or friends about this b/c they don’t understand how delicate DH is when it comes to this topic, and tend to get a little too excited about sharing their beliefs - which can be intimidating.