I have a friend who dated a guy for about a year before they broke up. They were sexually active. Once they broke up, they continued to have “hook ups” and remain sexually active. As a result of this, she became pregnant with his baby and she is due in about 2 months.
Her mother was extremely embarrassed by this. Her parents (as well as my friend) are devout Catholics, and so to discover that your Catholic daughter was pregnant came as a huge shock and deeply disappointed them.
They have basically hidden her these past 7 months or so. Basically the only people they let her hang out with were one of her female friends and me. She is not allowed to go anywhere. They keep her in the house. She was “forbidden” from telling people about it.
Anyways, she told a lot of people. I don’t know if anyone has been pregnant as a teenager from your ex-boyfriend, but it’s extremely stressful and she came to people for comfort and support during her difficult time.
Her mother refuses to have a bay shower for her. So one of our mutual friends has been talking for months now about having a “dinner” for the baby. Well, the dinner is next Wednesday, and of course I was invited.
My concern is whether 1) it is sinful to have this party (since it would be without the mother’s knowledge and against what she wants), and, if it is sinful, 2) if it would be sinful for me to go to this party.
I want to support my friend. I want to be there for her (especially considering the fact that she is probably going to pick me to be her child’s God parent!) And part of me feels like her mother has no right to refuse that her 19 year old child have a party celebrating her granddaughter’s life. But I don’t want to go if it would be sinful. But even the 2 youth ministers from my church are going to be there! And they both know about how the mother is.
Anyways, any help or advice would really help a lot.