I’m 43 and 4 months. My 2nd trimester screening showed 1:8 Trisomy 18 chance which is extremely high. My first trimester screen showed normal.
I’m not doing an amnio test because of the risk of miscarriage, while low, is too high. The doctor said I should in case I want to terminate because trisomy 18 is considered incompatible with life and most babies die automatically or within a year. He said it so breezily.
I would never terminate, it hurt to hear that. Now I have 5 months of not knowing whether my baby is healthy. I had to take an unpaid day off from work to clear my head and heart. My full time job is stressful.
I already love this baby and read the Magnificat to him in the morning. My heart hurts. I just wanted to share, for prayers but also for words of encouragement (that’s why I didn’t post in just the prayer section).
I sang the joy of the Lord is my strength this morning without much feeling but with hope the Lord would have pity on me and give me strength to endure.
There are rare cases where children with trisomy 18 survive many years with lots of pain, feeding tube , unable to walk etc.
Thanks to all for listening. Whether you privately pray for me or respond here is a tremendous blessing during this time and I thank you.