I agree with what Liberanos says. It is important to realise that love is more than just chemistry, passion, excitement. In fact, there are people who seem to love each other genuinely without those things (imagine people who share lots of affection but virtually no things like flirting etc. and they live routine lives that seem mundane to others, you'd call them lovey doves or something like that, but there would be no explosives, just maybe the "butterflies").
They say love is a choice, but love is an attitude rather. That means it's some predisposition towards the other person but more than that. Friendship and commitment are pretty much the substance of it, while the sympathy, the feelings etc., give it some temperature and it's hard without those things... A good thing to rekindle them, to think of ways to rekindle them, but it would probably be an error to think that there is something wrong with the match if the relationship isn't particularly exciting some long time into it. In my opinion, chances are very much that the same problem would appear in a relationship with someone else.
I'd probably try to remember what brought you two together, reassure yourselves (as far as it is true) that you want to pursue that relationship, find something to do together because as Saint-Exupery (the author of the Little Prince) said, love is not about looking at each other, it's about looking in the same direction, perhaps appreciate more the things that keep you together which are other than sensations of whatever kind; whatever makes you want to age and have grandchildren with that person. Then again, I'm just a single dood with lots of failure under his belt, so. ;)
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I don't think you need to sell chemistry and passion to people. It's the commitment in the absence of that that needs to be sold, and is often a hard sell.
Flyingfish, commitment is something on a different level from that passion, chemistry and excitement. Yes, it still has some inexplicable parts to it... You never know what makes you want to take a bullet for somebody, but that certainly isn't chemistry or excitement, it takes much more and much different. The "dying" part is the man's role from Ephesians, but embarking on a bit of speculative extrapolation, what kind of man would you have the impulse to risk your life for (or entrust your own life to)... some guy that were brilliant, mingling, sparkling, causing chills and so on, or someone you respected, admired, saw the value of? I believe the latter and that's the part with commitment. Chemistry and excitement are good (in the right context, otherwise, I'd say neutral), but without that commitment part, they are so empty.