My sister met this man at work, who seems to be such a nice guy. My family actually likes him, but they think he’s divorced!!! But he’s still married to his wife and they have 2 children together, 2 boys, 7 & 9.
At first my sister told me he was married, then she said he was divorced, then she told me he was separated. Then I confronted her about this and she finally admitted he’s married still. Well, sure this man is nice, good looking, and has a good job and is a good dad, BUT he’s married and he also had a vasectomy done a few yrs back.
So, that’s not all… when they first began “dating” he was already “cheating” on my sister with another woman. So, here’s this married man, cheating on my sister. He is separated, but he’s still married. Oh, and he’s not Catholic. He is Christian, but I don’t know what denomination.
Ok… so my sis tells me this guys had a vasectomy and she said she told him that she didn’t want anything to do with a man who wouldn’t be able to make her a mom. She’s already 29, never been married, and has always been in conflicting relationships. So, then, a few days later, she finds out this guy is not only dating her, but some other girl. Sister breaks it off. He swears the other woman mean nothing (just like the wife), and begs my sister to get back with him. Fine, he’s separated, he’s trying to be committed to my sister, but, he’s STILL MARRIED. My sis said she was going to be seeing him just to make him “suffer” for having “cheated” on her (btw, I believe they are sleeping together, more likely than not, my sister’s well known for that )… so, now she’s forgotten about the whole other girl thing, and now is just waiting on the guy’s divorce to become final. Supposedly, it becomes final in January. Ok, we live in California, divorces don’t take that long in California! According to her, their divorce is taking about 2 yrs because they both want custody of the boys. Mmm… a bit skeptical here, I studied divorce in college, and this doesn’t sound like it… I’m afraid this guy is afraid to get divorced and does not want another serious relationship.
Ok, to top it all, my sister calls me yesterday and tells me they’re moving in together. :eek: Too many things came to my head! Just to name a few: 1. She lived with a Catholic guy for 2 yrs and when they were to start reserving ballrooms and choosing her dress for their wedding, she called it off because she said she couldn’t stand him any more after having lived w/him. 2. She said many times in the past she believes cohabiting is WRONG and kills any relationship before marriage.
I mentioned the Catholic guy, and she said, “Why are you always comparing my b/fs?” Well, because she always dates the wrong guys, the ones who cheat, the ones who are only w/her because of sex, the ones who made her drop out of school, the ones who have helped her ruin her credit, just to name a few… oh, and now, the one who is married!!!
So, I don’t know what else to do. She always dates one guy after the other, and always lets them hurt her. One she dated for 10 yrs, on and off, and he cheated several times, but she pretended it never happened, but when the guy tried to get MY best friend drunk to sleep with him, my sister got angry at my friend and not at the guy!! She still talks to him… Something wrong in this picture, right??? She doesn’t take time between guys she dates, and she’s sexually active with all of them. Ever since high school (we’re talking about 11 yrs), she’s dated one after the other, and the most she’s been w/o a b/f is 1 wk!
Oh, and now that she’s forgetting about the new guy being married and having cheated on her already, she says she doesn’t want kids. :shrug: I will never understand her… I don’t know what else to do. She’s so immature for her age, and that’s only on the emotional side… the rest of her life is a mess too…