He is 17 will be 18 in June.
Tonite I caught him in a lie- said he was late coming home because he had to go back to his girlfriend's (she is 16) house to get the movie they were watching from her laptop. Why her laptop? Because they were in her bedroom.......sitting on her bed.........with the door closed.
He has let straight A's slip to B's and a C.
Sends/receives texts during school- doesn't care that she is in school also.
Had his hours cut at work from 20 to 4 because he was kissing gf at work and not working.
Had boss call me to ask that I do not let him take his phone to work due to excessive texting.
I Went inside gf's house one night, because I thought the idea of taking a 7 year old (her sis) out to a movie at 9pm on a weeknight was odd, only to find out she lied to her mother-they were going to be alone at home- mom was going out.
Was involved in a car accident with gf. Police feel she was texting. She totaled her car- air bags deployed- the works. She/he continue to text while driving sometimes.
He found a ipod at a movie theater while with gf. Showed it to me and said he was going to hack the lock and sell on ebay.
Overheard him say to gf he wants to lay down with her on top of him.
All this in the last 7 weeks since meeting this girl.
THIS IS NOT MY SON!
I have no idea what is wrong with him. I cannot sleep tonite, I can only cry. I asked him to not go in her bedroom when he left. He said he wouldn't. Her mom obviously doesn't care. I told him I would call her mom and ask that they are not in her bedroom- I wouldn't allow that in my house- he said I better not- I will ruin everything. Said he can't wait to leave home- (even though he's going to be home for the next 4 yrs at local college.)
I told him he will not be seeing her at her home anymore. She will have to see him here. He says HE CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS TO DO WHEN HE IS 18.
I can't just sit and watch him be anymore destructive. We have talks about temptation, near occasions of sin, etc. and he listens,,,,,,,,but I feel it has fallen on deaf ears. Every day or so is a new surprise with him....... I have been so proud of him until lately........I hate to say it, but I feel like I will be a hypocrite if I have a graduation party for him and all I will hear is how great he is, "a good guy" .
I am so hurt by his choices.......... I wish Mother's Day was not this Sunday............. he is my only child........... I thought I did my best........ apparently not. HOW CAN I HELP HIM??? I am so sad right now.