1 Corinthians 11:3
But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
A wife can not be her husband’s spiritual head. It would be a very big mistake for me to try. Men should be led by men, not women, most especially in spiritual matters.
1 Corinthians 7:14, 16-17
For the unbelieving husband is consecrated through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is consecrated through her husband. Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife? Only, let every one lead the life which the Lord has assigned to him, and in which God has called him.
Here Saint Paul tells us married people sanctify each other only in living the life God has called each of us to live. My efforts to convert my husband are restrained through prayer and living the Christian life assigned to me by God. This is what I do, so in a sense yes, I am making efforts towards his conversion, but it is up to God and my husband alone when his conversion finally does come to fruition.
“Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division; for henceforth in one house there will be five divided, three against two and two against three; they will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against her mother, mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.” He also said to the multitudes, "When you see a cloud rising in the west, you say at once,
A shower is coming'; and so it happens. And when you see the south wind blowing, you say,There will be scorching heat’; and it happens. You hypocrites! You know how to interpret the appearance of earth and sky; but why do you not know how to interpret the present time? “And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right?”
Here Christ obviously warns us of the division He will cause between us, and tells us we are to judge for ourselves what is right. My husband ain’t no saint, but he does a whole lot of good. The core teachings of the church, i.e. contraception, abortion, gay marriage, he’s totally on board with. He’s totally supportive of me being a stay at home wife and mother. He’s well on his way! He’s got a whole lotta PRIDE though, and me telling him what he needs to be doing with regard to church and prayer would send him running for the hills!
Often I wonder if some of the arguments stem from his fear of conversion. It would be extremely difficult for him to explain such a thing to his family. He’s already spent the last two years explaining to his family his wife’s reversion. I can only imagine the warnings he was given from both the believers and the non-believers alike. It took me 12 years to come back to the church, and I wanted it and thought about it the entire 12 years. He has never considered such a thing for himself, although I’m sure he has since my reversion only two and a half years ago.
Beyond this, he has to understand through my example that without a shadow of a doubt my love is not now, or ever will be contingent on his conversion.
Now I have allowed a good deal of digression from the subject (see title) of this thread. If anyone else has comments on the book Myth and Ritual in Christianity by Alan Watts, please feel welcome to post. Suggestions of books that may help a non-believer come to some respect for the Catholic church are also most welcome. Otherwise, I would sincerely appreciate suggestions for marriage counseling or “hints on how to convert your husband” to wait for the next thread I submit titled, “Help! I need to convert my husband and save my marriage!” or something to that effect. Don’t hold your breath waiting for that one though…
I do appreciate all the replies though, I would just prefer to stay on track. Thanks to all!