Something I read here this morning prompted me to consider the question of naming deceased children who were never born. Before my wife and I married we lived together for 4 years, both Catholics but not practicing. During those years we conceived two children 2 years apart. The first was an eptopic pregnancy (in the Fallopian tube, not the uterus). There was zero chance of survivability so the fetus was removed at about 5 weeks old. Really not much beyond the embryonic state but still a child with a soul. The second child was a miscarriage about a month and a half into the pregnancy. We did not have a chance to know the sex. Both of us are now practicing and devoted Catholics and have one beautiful, healthy teenage daughter. Once we got serious about our faith we talked a lot about the two children we lost and we pray for/to them, referring to them as our unborn children. We’ve often wondered if they were going to be boys or girls. We never thought of naming them to give them some sort of identity but after seeing posts on the subject I’m wondering if that’s something we should do or if there is any necessity in it at all, not knowing their sex? There were several different names we considered for our daughter before we knew she was going to be a girl but I don’t know if we’d want to “give” those names to our deceased unborn children. I’m also curious if anyone else has done this or had these same questions.
Because I just thought of this I don’t know how my wife would feel about it. Just curiousity for me right now, I guess.
totus + tuus,