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Thankyou, to those who responded to me, and to the others in this thread. This is a most painful topic, and it helps, VERY MUCH, to share.
Andrea (OP), I am guessing that you, or someone you know, is going through it now. As you can see, the prognosis is poor that the narcissist will ever see themselves as having a problem. The only problems they see are other people not giving them the recognition and attention they deserve. However, with God, there is always hope, even if the way is not clear.
As much as you would like to "diagnose" your spouse, my advise it to focus on preserving your own sanity, self-respect, and future. And your childrens', if applicable. Use whatever legal, physical or moral support you have. However, you are dealing with a person who, when confronted with losing his/her spouse and family, will treat it like any other "affront" to their superiority, and will probably fight tooth and nail to keep that which he (or she) has previously disdained, and which they will happily discard - at a time of THEIR chosing.
I had a look in Amazon for relevant books, and there seem to be a few. This one looked particularly good. Check out the first user review - it should ring a few bells! :) :(
You are all in my prayers,
I filed for divorce in Feb. 2004. I am still not divorced. A sociopath/narcisist is notorious for dragging everything out and not caring even about breaking the law.
My ex walked out for the other woman and never looked back. Never saw our son again. Wouldnt show up for court.. refuses to follow any rules. My Husband of 13 years.
Be so careful if you ever divorce a sociopath.. there are books written about how divorcing a sociopath takes 10 times as long.
Oh and narcists/sociopaths will use religion as well.. so be careful... they will say anything with out remorse or guilt.
There is a blog.. www.lovefraud.com... reading the stories should sound familiar to anyone who has dealt with a narcisist/sociopath.