Near Occasion of Sin, Computer Addiction

I was going to go to Confession today but wondered if my computer is a near-occasion of Mortal Sin for me. Obviously, I can make the choice Not to look at you-know-what and avoid those images and websites like they’re the plague, but it comes down to even if I have taken precautionary measures to make a near-occasion more remote, is it still a near occasion? If I did everything in my power to avoid Mortal Sin on the internet, and yet I would still be tempted, all my efforts would be like polishing poop, rolling it in glitter and putting a pretty now on it. It looks pretty but it still stinks.
I know this is Lent and I should be giving up things that I like, but the last time I have up the internet I caved in on the first day.
I can’t go to Confession when my attachment to my Computer could be a near-occasion for me, but if it isn’t, i’d jump out the window and confess with two broken ankles. I’m just sick and tired of being Lukewarm.

that is something to talk to your regular confessor and spiritual director about. You have scruples, you need to ask your regular confessor not random internet people.

This doesn’t make ANY sense. That is what confession is for-- confessing sins. And a so-called near occasion of sin is not a sin. A temptation is not a sin. Neither are a reason to stay away from your confessor or spiritual director.

You are scrupulous, you need to be guided by your regular confessor and spiritual director especially regarding so called “near occasion of sin” which the scrupulous tend to misunderstand and misapply in their lives.

I sometimes wonder if I am Scrupulous, or if I’m fooling myself into thinking that I am. It seems like more often than not, I’m willing temptation/sin and then beating myself up over them. Sometimes it seems like the harder I try not to sin, the more I do it.

Please talk to your priest- he is the only one who can help you.

Regular Confessor. Spiritual Director.

STAT

Talk with your confessor.

He can direct you.

Welcome to my life.
It is not something that you can overcome in a couple of days, it is a decision and it will be a long fight.

Praying for you, hang in there.

Praying for you.

Peace,
B

Don’t hurt yourself in any way. That would be a very proud and willful display of false virtue. It would do great spiritual harm to you. If you often imagine acts of self-harm, please get professional help, and see your regular priest or confessor, and stay away from online resources that lead you to evil or scrupulous thoughts.

Get off the computer and read a good book perhaps.

Also I will try something new, and ask you to read this article:
Preserve Your Confidence In God
This article is from a chapter in the book Worshiping a Hidden God, by Archbishop Luis M. Martinez.

As much as I would love to go to Confession, as soon as I’m back home, I’m on the computer again and extremely discouraged. My conscience tells me “you’ve sinned again”, and I wonder if there is any hope. I also turn into “Scruples-the-Clown” – A Scrupulous Wreck-- right after Confession, trying to be extra careful not to have any Grave Impulses, thoughts or tendencies (especially the ones I had within the last 5 minutes The Rosary, the BVM, Baby Jesus!)

Regular confessor.

That is your key.

Put it in key-slot and turn it…and drive.

He needs to direct you if your scrupulous.

Near occasions to mortal sin - is not simply a temptation (as some think it is).

Tell him your concern - have him direct you.

When you say “your conscience” tells you…well maybe…or maybe not. Scruples are not the voice of conscience.

I will re-post an older post of mine

A person struggles with scruples - what ought they do?

A person with scrupulosity --ought to have a “regular confessor” who can direct them --and even give them some general principles/rules to follow -to apply (principles for them due to their particular scruples -they are usually not for those with a normal conscience). Thus with their direction they can dismiss scruples. Such is the age old practice in the Church. Obedience to ones regular confessor.

Scruples are to be dismissed not argued with.

Scruples are like a barking dog or a hissing goose -one does not stop to argue with a barking dog or a hissing goose does one? One keeps walking.

(image from a Carthusian writer from centuries ago).

As to counseling - that could be helpful depending on the case -but one would want to look for a counselor who can assist one in following the Churches Teachings - not go contrary to them (I have heard CA staff mention catholictherapists.com/) Some person with scrupulosity may yes also suffer from OCD - but the two are not simply equated.

Here is an article from Jimmy Akin of CA that I saw in the Register and saved for those who struggle with such.

ncregister.com/blog/jimmy…the-scrupulous

A near occasion of sin is an occasion where you will almost always end up committing the sin. If computer use is a one of those occasions, you would have to do your best to avoid using a computer with internet access. That’s not always possible in today’s world. You might have school assignments (or work) that requires the internet. Sometimes the occasion is unavoidable while other times there is something you can do to avoid it. There is no quick fix for conquering this sin. It takes time and effort, so as others said, you need to be going to confession regularly.

That link seems to be broken.

Ya that is what I get then I reuse old posts without being careful :slight_smile:

Here I found it ncregister.com/blog/jimmy-akin/6-tools-for-the-scrupulous

Funny, but my homily tomorrow starts with Matthew 5: 27-37 and I was just thinking that in contemporary society the hand that Christ tells us to (figuratively) amputate can be the hand that uses the computer, too. It’s hard to maintain what John Stott called “cultural amputation,” which includes not only porn but also suggestive pop-up ads, films, television, etc. and is a struggle against avarice, pride, etc. as well as lust. It’s a struggle for, probably, most of us? So you’re not alone, brother and–you’re mourning your fallen human condition and tendency toward sin, as we all should!
“Blessed are those who mourn.”

I was in Confession just yesterday! Sinner that I am. I am sure I already fell from grace since then. But, guess what, there is always confession next week. Thankyou Jesus!

Now the near occasion of sin was explained to me yesterday, as the act of contrition I had , contained that comment.

My dear Priest explained that near occasion of sin means a temptation near us. Its not a sin, it is a temptation.

He also said temptation is an instant thing that lasts a few seconds to minutes. So when we get this near occasion to sin, just Pray for the duration of that temptation.

Till it passes in those seconds or minutes. Then get on with life.

Please speak to your Priest. They do tend to simplify things, and explain them so a simple person, such as myself, can understand.

Ps. Dont be put off going to confession. I know its worse then going to a dentist, but like my Priest says

Its such a great sacrament.

In all honesty, I’d rather go to Confession than go to the dentist. I’d rather be at Church than at Work. After all these months (4) I’ve slowly learned that I’ve taken a Presumptuous, semi-pelagian attitude, thinking I can resist temptation in between confessions on my own. I can’t. Every time I pray, more temptations pop up. My temptations are like a Hydra, cut one head off, two more take the original one’s place. Cut those two off, and four more pop up and so on. I’m willing to fight tooth-and-nail, but I don’t know how much longer I can take it.

Do you have professional help? Have you told this to your Priest?

No, but I did have 2 psychiatrists that weren’t savvy to Catholic teaching (although one was is Episcopalian). And my Priest told me to “take you’re medicine, you know if somebody has diabetes, they would be in a lot of trouble if they didn’t take their insuline!” . But when I take my anti-aging medicine, I just feel like it reduces my ability to not consent. But in my currently state, all the anxiety and stress and compulsions have worn my Will down like a pencil that can’t seem to get sharp without breaking. I imagine my Will as a poorly constructed dam. With each temptation, obsession or compulsion, the dam develops a leak. It takes only a few leaks for the dam to burst open drown the “Village of Virtue” in a flood of Vice and sin.

Do you still live with family. I dont know your age.

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