I am on friendly terms with my ex and is wife. In fact, she and I occasionally email each other. She sent me an email this week asking me questions about my experiences with her husband (my ex). She talked about how unhappy she is in her marriage and wanted advice woman to woman. She also asked me not to say anything to my son. I’ve been very careful not to say anything much about my ex and instead focused on my own faults in the marriage. I also told her how happy he seems in photos - more so than with me.
Basically, I’m trying to counsel her on how to save her marriage to my ex-husband, but from what she has written, she’s already made up her mind to get a divorce. However, I feel awful keeping such a secret from my son. I feel as if I’m somehow taking sides with the ‘enemy’. I didn’t ask her to share all this with me and wish I didn’t know.
She said she doesn’t want my ex to hear about a divorce before she tells him, but this is a tremendous weight on my shoulders. I don’t want to tell her secret, but I also want to protect my son’s father. In fact, I’ve never even met h er - I only know her through a few e-mails.
I’ve talked with my priest, who really couldn’t help much - sort of said sit quiet and see what happens.
I’'d love to hear what others here think.