I am confused about whether I should feel concerned about the friendship that is budding between my husband and his female coworker.
My husband and I are both in our late twenties, married for a year with a 2 month old. DH works at a local cafe as a supervisor.
Last night when I went to pick him up, he stated that we were"lucky" to have the relationship we have where we can forgive and love each other as we do. I inquired what spurred this reaction and he told me that he an his coworker (C, early twenties) were talking about her declining relationship with her boyfriend. DH described that C was considering ending her relationship because her boyfriend was emotionally unavailable. Somewhere in the conversation she also told my DH that her boyfriend didn’t believe in make-up sex. My husband expressed how sorry he felt for his coworker. He advised her to seek counseling before ending her relationship. He told me that she doesn’t believe in God.
My husband is a very caring person. He likes to help people in need/trouble.
My confusion lies in whether this is an appropriate conversation for him to have with C. I have a feeling that it was just the two of them in the conversation as there tend to be only two workers at a time in the cafe. I could be over-thinking this whole thing. It’s one thing to share unhappy things in your life but to openly talk about bedroom troubles to a married man worries me. I fear this women accidentally (i would hope it would not be intentional) developing an emotional attachment/dependence to my husband because he is hearing out her troubles.
I plan on expressing my concerns to my husband but I wanted feedback on what you all think. Non-Christians have a tendency of not knowing when boundaries are being crossed in conversations. My husband is the type to shut down any advances but I don’t know that he will notice them in conversations, even if unintentional.
Aside from this: my DH is studying massage therapy and C requested a massage but only if I okayed it. I was going to say yes but now I’m reconsidering my answer. Am I overreacting?
So am I just crazy? Or is this something that does make sense to you all??
Thanks for reading!