I have a sister who recently got a divorce, just about two months ago. He was the one who came home one day and told her that he didn't love her anymore and wanted a divorce. She was shocked for he was suppose to be this good Christian husband.(They are not Catholic.) They met together three times when they were separated in an attempt to prevent a divorce, but he told her that she would never change and gave her a long list of things that she needed to change. Apparently, they agreed in making a list at one of their meetings of what they felt the other needed to change and his list was very long and she had a short list for him. She was very angry to say the least. Anyway, he would not listen to anyone, his parents, or even his brother in law who was a protestant minister. We all thought he was having an affair. He was seen around town with another woman and my niece, who is 23 yrs. old, who babysat the kids for him on his weekends with the kids, found evidence that he was dating someone even before the divorce was final.
Well, my sister and her mother-in-law, who is very religious in her religion, and has a strong faith, asked everyone to pray for a miracle and so we all have been doing that, but the divorce happened. The mother-in-law never gave up nor did I for they are still married in the eyes of God, but he has done things to upset my sister that she wants nothing to do with him except talk to him only in reference to their children. One day he was at her house and she asked him to leave and he said no. She got really angry and asked him again and he said no. She did not want to call the police for she did not want to do that to her kids. So she waited until he left on his own. After that incident, she hated him. She hates hearing his name. I don't know what happen or why she wanted him out of the house. My sister is very private. We don't know what happened in the marriage for all we knew they were happily married for that is what she told us, but when they were separated she told us they were in marriage counseling. She said she kept things quiet for it was their business, but I told her we all could have prayed for their marriage.
Anyway, here is my problem. My sister has been getting text messages from her ex that he wants her back. He has told this to her also in conversations. She doesn't want him back. She has not told me, but has told my mother. I have talked to my mother and asked why won't she give him a chance if he is willing now for they were married 17 years, but she just says my sisters almost hates him now. Apparently, when he asked her if he could come back home, he didn't apologize and gave her list of demands, like more sex and this upset her. I received an email from her ex's mother, for we are friends, about two mothers ago to pray for their marriage. I knew something was up. Yesterday, I hear that my sister is changing the locks on her house and the code on her garage. I did not hear this from her but from my mom again. I asked if things were that bad. She just said that my sister is tired by her ex bothering her and she doesn't want him coming into her house uninvited. I called my sister yesterday to talk to her about my mother's birthday for it was yesterday to see if we were all getting together but got my other sister and she also told me of the locks being changed and the problem with the ex text messages and emails and calls. I asked her if it was so bad that they tried to work things out and she said he has not apologized yet. At that moment I said and these were my exact words to her, "If only he would contact one of us sisters to talk to us, we would advice him to apologize for all that he has done to her and how he has hurt her and he is going about this all the wrong way, he could win her back." At that I said goodbye to my sister.
Today, I get an email from my sister's ex and in the subject line it said, "call." He asked me to please call him on his cell phone and to keep it quiet that he wants me to call him. I have not called him yet, but I think I know what it is about. I know it is no coincidence that he emailed me and that I said what I said to one of my sisters and then he communicates with me in an email. I know the Lord wants me to talk to him. I just need to be careful and I will be honest I am scared. This is a marriage and I know they are divorce legally, but if I can help in getting them back together that would be great.
I have not told this to my husband and part of me is thinking I should not call him and part of me is saying I need to call him. What do you all think? I feel the Lord is calling me to talk to him, but I don't want to screw things up. This man has a temper too, but I am use to dealing with men with tempers for I am married to one.
What is your advice? Call or not call. Get involve or not?