I am looking for some spiritual help with my new marriage. I was raised Catholic and my husband is a non-Christian. He thinks he can hang out with anyone anytime, he says we just can’t kiss or make love to other people but everything else besides that is ok. I am wondering, am I being too “conservative” and “closed-minded” like he says, or is this crossing the line of the sacred bonds of marriage?
My husband wants close relationships with women and men who are not living in a good standing with Christ (sleeping with exes/friends/drugs/swingers/no morality). I know, we are all sinners, but I said that I want to find people that we can both get along with, and people who will respect our marriage. But he doesn’t have an interest in those kinds of people, and is not interested in creating those kinds of boundaries in his life.
Anyway, I am so sick of this. My husband has every excuse in the book and says he loves me, but I am wondering, is it his friends who are the problem, me, or my husband?
I made the decision not to have close relationships with exes or sleep over at men’s homes but my husband doesn’t feel the same way. Without a strong relationship with Christ, it’s hard to convince my husband that nurturing relationships will strengthen us.
Tell, me, am I the one that is crazy? I’ve prayed and read scripture, and it says to love love love. Should I just be ok with everyone anytime in our home/life, and just submit myself to this kind of life because scripture says I must submit to my husband? We are already heading in different directions, because I’ve made more commitments to Christian groups instead.
Please, let me know what to do!
-Christ’s (unworthy and still learning) Servant