I have a dear friend who really needs advice and I just don't know what to tell her! This is going to sound strange but believe me it is dead serious. She and her husband are protestants and lately he has been getting obsessed with some cult-like Hitler loving group online, and chatting with their leaders for hours. He is in so deep to the point he will not let her go to church or take the kids to baseball games because of all the "Jew-lovers". He has become really hateful towards Jews and black people and spouting this stuff all the time. She says he's like a completely different person.
They have 3 young children together and she has been a stay at home mom for like 6 years, no work experience to speak of in a long time. She doesn't have a lot of money or family just a parent who lives in a dangerous part of town who would be willing to take them in. We urged her to have his pastor speak to him about it and he did speak with him, but it didn't help. He is just as firm in his hateful beliefs as ever. She has tried so hard and put so much into raising kind, Christian children, and she can't stand the thought of him instilling them with hate. He is willing to stay with her but he says if she seperates from him, he will get a divorce. The marriage has been a bit rocky from the beginning (way before this happened, she told me had not taken her out in 3 years and I thought THAT was terrible!) but this, now it is just about unbearable for her.
We've all been praying and praying but he is just not changing!
She really wants me to give her advice. She says everyone is telling her to divorce but if she does, he might get joint custody or worse, and turn the kids against her, and she'd be poorer and in a dangerous area to boot. Oh yes, and one of her kids is still a little baby. I really don't know what advice to give! Does anyone have any insight here?