I guess the short story is that I want more kids, DH doesn’t but we both agreed to step up to the plate and use NFP to avoid pregnancy.
We took the class, agreed that he would do the charting, that way he would always know exactly what was going on, and would remove any blame from me if we had a surprise. I didn’t want to be in a spot where the burden was mine alone, and thus, “blame” for a pregnancy be mine alone.
Well, in order to learn NFP, the instructor strongly suggested we abstain for the first month, but since I’m coming off of hormonal BC, it might actually be longer.
I have a much higher drive than DH does, yet he’s taken this 30 days of absitnence to be extra frisky, if YKWIM? doing things that normally get my fire burning hot - things he doesn’t NORMALLY do because he’s not normally interested.
He’s also not asking me about my day and doing the charting… I have to hand it to him and tell him to do it, even then he just asks me what to write, and doesn’t bother to learn what it means.
We have no major reason to avoid pregancy, DH just wants to retire when he turns 60 and doesn’t want any children still at home when he does. I’m 1 years younger than him and only have 3 children, I’d still love 1 or 2 more.
How am I supposed to bring him back into this as a partnership, and make him understand how much it hurts to “tease” me when we’re supposed to be abstaining?