A guy I work with is allowing himself to become a doormat for a manipulative, exploitive older woman he knows.
This woman has family who are very capable of seeing to her needs. I have questioned him about her circumstances, and have met her on several occassions. She is as transparent as glass as far as I’m concerned.
She has 3 adult sons who live within 5 minutes of her. They all have money and they all support her. She lives VERY comfortably. She is also a severe hypochondriac and a pathological liar.
She claims her children do nothing for her, never come to visit, blah blah blah.
This woman is MEAN. She never has a nice word to say about anyone or any thing. She is masterful at playing the helpless widow, when in fact she has more money in the bank than he or I put together. She is a TOTAL control freak.
The problem here is that my friend is a very decent man. He can NOT see that she is taking advantage of him but anyone with half a brain who has met this woman can see right through her. This situation is causing him much grief and lack of sleep. She has him taking her everywhere and calling him at all hours of the night to attend to her selfish wants and needs. She lies about how her sons and their families treat her. She does all of this for attention and nothing else.
I have told him that he is being taken for a fool and that I will go to her sons and tell them what she is doing to my friend and how she is ruining his life by exploiting his kindness and generosity. This has been going on for over a year now and he keeps saying he’ll handle it…yet he continues to allow her to manipulate him and take advantage of him.
I am rapidly losing my respect for HIM since he can’t see the forest for the trees. This situation amazes me because this man is very intelligent, ran a company of his own for years and is a father and grandfather himself.
What am I to do? I can’t sit idly by and watch this woman exploit his kindness any longer and quite frankly, I’m sick of hearing about this miserable woman. I have NO respect for her at all and she knows I’m on to her.