I need some advice. (just a warning: this is a bit long :o )
DH and I are planning to have some friends over for a little “dinner party” sometime soon. This couple is engaged, and DH and the guy have been great friends since high school. Our friend’s sister is a lesbian, and she and her “partner” have a baby. DH (a carpenter) did some work at their home so he’s met them. Our friend suggested that they come to for dinner too and bring their daughter who is almost the same age as our DD so they can play.
Here’s my issue: I do not agree with the homosexual lifestyle, I absolutely trust and believe in the teachings of the Church on this issue. DH doesn’t agree with the homosexual lifestyle either, but he’s not Catholic so that doesn’t factor into his thinking on it. So, I’m not sure if we should have them for dinner. I know it’s probably silly, but I just don’t feel comfortable, as if having them for dinner at our home “says” that I am OK with how they live, which I am not. Also, I’m concerned about our DD – she’s only 2 so obviously wouldn’t understand it, but I worry about it anyway.
Then I think that we should have them over, because maybe I can be a witness. I don’t really think anything I say will change them, but you never know how God might choose to use us…
Then I think it would be wrong not to have them over. We’re having our friends over, despite the fact they are not married yet and are living together (in my mind though, even though I know this is not right, it doesn’t seem as intrinsically disordered as the homosexual lifestyle does, KWIM?).
So, any advice? Am I being overly concerned about this? It’s not as if we’re already friends with these people – we could just have our friends over, which is what I would prefer. I don’t want to hurt our friends’ feelings (regarding his sister) but I don’t want to compromise my faith either.