My name is Alex and I am recent convert to the Church. I am 22 years old and my journey home was long and hective, especially in light of the fact that I was not raised Catholic, and the majority of my family is not Catholic. I am going to school right now at a community college and am graduating after Spring Semester. I plan to be a CHP officer after I recieve my B.A. I am also married (civilly) to a non-catholic woman. Now, I have been trying to grow in my faith, learn about it, and make it a part of my family. Here though, is my problem.
My wife, who is the daughter of Indian Sikh Immigrants, was thouroughly non-religious when we met. After time passed, she slowly started to accept my Catholic faith. Now we have been planning this Catholic wedding for three months with the assistance of her parents (my father has helped us enough already and my mother does not speak to her because my mother’s hatred toward catholics and indians), but they really do not care for it, for the real marriage they are concentrating for is the Sikh Punjabi wedding. Now, I am only doing that wedding because the parents wish it (I am not converting), but my wife not only has little faith to this day, but the Catholic wedding she is doing only to show off for her friends and have that “dream” wedding. Myself on the other hand, I view this wedding as a committment and sacrament instituted by Christ and protected by his Church. I see this wedding not as a “glamour” festival, but as one were two join together under god. My wife personally does not care for this (she has stated that the civil wedding was enough for her) and we argue over the meaning of the wedding and the importance that it has for me and herself. Personally, I feel that the wedding is absolutely important, but she does not herself. What can I do? Am I asking to much here? My goal has been to spread the Catholic faith to my nuclear family, and then to my kids. My wife has already stated that the kids can be catholic, but I wonder, if she has little regard for our catholic wedding, can she hold her promise in the future? She is not a bad person, but my future goals concerning the Church and her’s seem to be in conflict? Am i making to much of this?