Need some help here… It’s complicated to summarize, but here’s a first crack at it…
My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We have two kids, 3 and 5 years old. We both work full time, I’m in graduate school. We live a busy, but otherwise relatively unchallenging life.
My wife says she is unloved. I love her tremendously, but I will admit, I have trouble showing my love to her. We have not had much of a physical relationship for a while. I have difficulty expressing love to her (besides saying I love you, doing things for her, etc). She says she feels neglected and doesn’t feel like a wife. She says that I am no longer interesting to her, and that I haven’t matured into a grown man in the time we’ve been married. I feel like I’m only doing things for her and the family, and the way I show love may just be different than what she sees. (Yeah, the whole Love Language thing… Let’s not bring that one up again ) She sees me as always being busy around the house, and not paying enough attention to her or the marriage. I dunno, I guess I just think I’m trying to read her cues and hear her messages about what needs to get done, what her needs are, when she wants personal space, etc. I’m not going to pretend like that’ll be easy to always figure out, but I know I can do better. But how?
I obviously want to repair my marriage and save my family. If anyone can offer advice, resources, help… I’m all ears. I want to save my marriage!