In case you havent read my ramblings about my 2-year relationship with my girlfriend, here’s my (our) problem. I’ve had a somewhat recent experience that turned me from weak-spirited ignorant Christmas Catholic to a Catholic going to mass every week while exploring the faith. My girlfriend on the other hand, whom I met while I was a Christmas Catholic, was baptized Lutheran, but not religious or religiously educated.
So a little while back I decided to try to ourselves on the same page religiously. She claims that she hasnt found God yet, not sold yet on the idea so to speak. The biggest “problem” is that she doesnt believe there is a black and white right and wrong (ie right and wrong is relative to a person’s beliefs of what is right and wrong).
This leads to the following disagreements:
Contraception: Within marriage, she doesnt see a problem with it. I hate the rule myself, but I understand it and would follow it. See below.
**Children: **She claims that she doesnt want children at all when there are so many children up for adoption/in foster care who would need us more. We’re still incredibly young, so I’m not too worried about this at the moment, honestly.
Abortion: Pro-choice in cases of rape and when the pregnancy threatens the mother’s life. I dont know the Church’s postion in the case of a life-threatening pregnancy, though.
However, we’re both virgens and committed to stay as such until marriage. I have her to thank for that before my little revelation. She doesnt dress provacatively and we both dont smoke, drink or anything like that and volunteers extensively. She leds a moral life, really, but just doesnt yet believe in God.
We’re committed to working this out in the next 5 years when we’ll both be outta school. A friend of the family perscribed we both read Theology of the Body, St. Anselm’s Proslogion and Chesterton’s Orthodoxy. I personally like Meister Eckhart.
Any other suggestions? I’m not a very good speaker, I’ve got the same problem Moses did, and have so far been unable to convince her there is a “black and white” right and wrong. After that, I think the rest would be relatively easy.