My mom is a widow. She met a man after my dad died and they’ve been together about five years now.
We recently moved back home and have started attending Mass with my mom on Sunday. Her manfriend spends the weekend at her home…so I asked him why he doesn’t join us at Mass. (BTW, he is a Jehovah Witness, and wants to come to church with us.) He told me that my mom doesn’t want the priests to see them together. My mom used to work at a neighboring church cleaning the rectory.
I was really sad that she puts on the poor widow role at church. He stays behind waiting for her to come back after Mass.
Well, now the problem…I want him to come to Mass with us Christmas Eve. I cannot imagine the entire family going while he sits behind waiting for everyone to come back! It’s really bothering me. My mom won’t have him come along though. If he comes to Mass, she won’t go…and then I imagine he won’t go because she’d be so upset.
I want to talk to her about it, but don’t want to make waves. However, this man WANTS to come to church, but won’t because my mom might get embarressed. He was actually happy thinking I was inviting him to come to Mass tomorrow! I told him I’d love to have him come tomorrow, but my mom let me know it’s a problem.
We are to honor our parents, but at the same time I see a man who wants to learn more about Jesus.
Do I let it go (which I feel a pull that i can’t) or let my mom know he should come? If I’m going to bring it up, I have to do it tomorrow.