Hi everyone, I am new here, so I hope you won't mind me posting a question right away. I assume that since this is a Catholic forum I will mostly be treated with charity :)
My husband and I have been married for less than two years but we argue so often and so passionately that I am starting to become very depressed and disillusioned. For some reason we are able to be best friends one minute and then tearing each other to pieces the next. I just can't figure it out.
I've been going to counseling and it's helping some but I think we really need couples counseling but we can't really afford it and my husband doesn't really want to do it. He doesn't seem as bothered as I am about the bad arguments. He thinks we can just say sorry later and everything will be fine (until next time that is). Honestly a lot of our problem just seem like immaturity--never in a million years would I have expected myself to turn into a yelling, name-calling, hateful person like I am when we're arguing. It's like we both know intellectually what we should and should not do, but it just goes all down the drain the minute one of us is in a bad mood or something.
Adding to all of this pressure is we have serious financial worries. But I just don't understand why we can't be loving and supportive to each other. I just don't think this is normal for newlyweds. I am also so eager to have children but I'm terrified to bring them into the picture with our current financial and emotional situation. I don't know what else to say. I'm feeling so sad and isolated. Please tell me if you had a similar experience early in marriage and if it can get any better. Please also pray for us.