[quote="PopeJPIIRocks, post:1, topic:227387"]
My wife and I have been married for 15 years. I've really taken my Catholicism seriously, and have focused a great deal on chastity. I have a great focused on this, as it seems like our society, and many of my male friends and associates have so little regard for it. I used to be like them.
On the other hand, my wife, since the beginning of our marriage, flirts with guys behind my back-always denying(even though I've caught her on multiple occasions-she still lies about it). She thinks she's a smooth operator or something...I do have a hard time trusting her as a result. I don't have a reason to believe that she's done more than this. But it gets hard to forgive when on multiple occasions.
Anyway, I need prayers for my wife, that she become more chaste. I need your prayers that I stay true to the chastity. I don't want to lose her, and I certainly am not contemplating divorce. I view this as a cross I've got to take up.
But I need your prayers to be strong and true to our faith,and to forgive her.
Its difficult from your post to know whats going on in your marriage.
You say that your wife is not chaste. What makes you say that? Its a serious accusation against a person, so you have to be careful to define that.
Do you affirm her as a woman, make her feel like a woman, do you tell her she is beautiful? Do you make her feel like a queen. What I mean is that some women have quite a bad self esteem, so they use a long time infront of the mirror and seek the attention from men, to make these men confrim to them that they are still beautiful, still attractive, because their husband doesn't talk to them.. some men are workaholics or have a thousands activities and dont realise that a woman need communication and feeling valued - not just in bed.
Are you absent alot, emotionally, or not speaking with her as much as she needs?
Do you and your wife have different definitions of flirting?
I say that because some people are jealous and loose sight of reality and because their spouse or partner feels distrusted she reinforces that impression by starting to hide what to her is normal interaction, and this only makes the suspicion grow.
Some people have different ideas about what flirting is, and what someone perceives as such, might be very subjective.
You need not answer these questions here at all, but just to ask yourself. If you are pretty sure your wife is really objectively humiliating you by flirting with other guys, why dont you sit her down and tell her how it hurts you. Tell her about your love and need for more exclusivity.
Since she loves you I am sure she would be sensitive to your request...
Just my two cents.
Peace to you and I hope all will be better...