Hello Catholic Answers,
It has been some while since I last posted on here. In regards to my last posting, I was in a relationship that did not work too well and so here I am now. The relationship wasn’t beneficial to my spiritual life and I found myself through careful prayer and discernment called to date holier women. Not saying that the other girl wasn’t holy, but her holiness wasn’t challenging/leading me to holiness.
I am now interested in a girl whose holiness has sparked an interest in me. She has a lively and exciting zeal for the faith in her that brings it out in me as well. As I grew in prayer, providence enabled me to have goals and paths that were similar to hers… So I am in pursuit of this girl.
My dilemma is - I no longer see this girl regularly - she has gone away for the summer from school - and I want to inform her of my interest in her. Seeing as she knew my ex rather well, would it be a good idea to inform this girl of my interest in her or would telling her endanger her emotional chastity… If I feel I’m called to pursue her, but would the right thing be to tell her? Or has this time of being single enabled me to improve on my self mastery.
I don’t want to make things easier for myself by telling her - I want to do what is right but I am not seeing the picture here…