Good, but only say that when you mean it, I think. No need to force it as if it were obligatory. But I’m a low compliment user myself, so I may be biased on this one.
- We are not official girlfriend/boyfriend. We are just seeing how things go. She says she wants to take things slowly, which I am happy with with. But, what does taking things slowly mean?
Taking slowly means not rushing things. Not defining things too early. Allowing them to develop naturally instead of pushing them.
I find her more and more attractive the more I see her. I have never kissed a girl before or even hugged a girl romantically. But, obviously the more we get to know each other and look into each others eyes etc, then I would like to express my affection with a hug or a kiss or to hold her hand. But, I would be scared both of doing something wrong (I’ve no idea how to kiss). After 4 dates, would she be expecting a hug or a kiss? Should I initiate it?
Kissing is not something one should practice. It’s one of those things that show affection. Those things are not meant to be trained, so you aren’t meant to be a pro’. The number of dates has nothing to do with it. I think you may want to try and hug her if you really feel it, if you feel it expresses your affection and is not “getting action”, that it doesn’t lead anywhere bad etc. Before kissing, I would ask her. Hands are relatively safe… you could do that spontaneously if it were warranted, I guess.
- Any thoughts where I could take her out to next?
Whatever you like. Don’t try to score with her, really. You won’t really know what she likes (unless you actually do know that) and scoring points gives you nothing if the whole thing just doesn’t click. So, all in all, choose a place you like. If you really like the girl, you can choose a place that’s meaningful to you.
- Any thoughts in general about the initial stages of a relationship, especially from a woman’s perspective.
Yes. There is no such thing as formal stages. There’s no base 1, base 2, base 3 in reality, unless people want to push things and create labels to compel others into doing something they don’t want to do. Just take it slowly and allow it to develop naturally. Don’t push anything. Don’t force yourself.
- Any advice for me in general?
As above, plus try to relax a bit. Be natural, be yourself. Really give up on the idea of scoring points… it just doesn’t work like that. Honest. And when it does, it leads to disasters. Be yourself and you’ll know if she likes you. If you aren’t yourself but more like the perfect guy, you just get to know if she likes the image you create - but then you don’t know if she likes the real you. So be yourself. Stay true to your religion, your convictions, your principles, and to yourself. Good luck.